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PAS and the Affects on the Targeted/Alienated Parent

Parental Alienation is a devastating form of psychological abuse. We know that it wreaks havoc for the children. But what about the Targeted/Alienated Parent (TP)? How does all of this affect them?

PAS and the Affects on the Targeted/Alienated Parent

Parental Alienation is a devastating form of psychological abuse.  We know that it wreaks havoc for the children.  But what about the Targeted/Alienated Parent (TP)?  How does all of this affect them?

For years we have talked about the psychological trauma and damages that children of high conflict divorce must endure when one parent deliberately impedes their relationship with their other loving parent.  The statistics, signs and symptoms are well documented.  From emotional problems, to substance abuse problems, to anger and low-self-esteem, children of high conflict divorce are damaged by the psychological abuse of Parental Alienation.   But what about the Alienated/Targeted Parent.  This parent is being berated, ignored, defamed, slandered and had the most horrific things said about them, must try to stand up strong against all this anger, hatred and rage.

On top of this, the targeted parent is often barraged with legal proceeding after legal proceeding in courts that do not understand the problem.  The TP often suffers something called LAS or Legal Abuse Syndrome according Dr. Karin Huffer.  Dr. Huffer states that LAS is a form of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and is not a mental illness but more like psychological abuse that is inflicted upon the person causing them emotional pain, suffering and confusion. She believes that LAS stems from corrupt or poorly managed court situations that perpetrate and destroy another person with false allegations, abuses by the courts or vexatious litigations that are filed in the courts.   In other words it is basically, “psychic injury, not a mental illness. It is a personal injury that develops in individuals assaulted by ethical violations, legal abuses, betrayals, and fraud. And it is the abuse of power and authority and a profound lack of accountability in our courts, which compound an already stressful experience.”

The targeted parent becomes as wounded emotionally as the children.  They are forced to endure endless living deaths of their children who are still alive but dead to them, and thus never have closure.  This is abuse is then compounded by financial damages and worse, corrupt/unknowledgeable courts that do not appropriately handle these type cases.

Unfortunately, much more research needs to be done in this area.  If you are interested in being involved in the research and study of the affects of PAS on the Targeted Parent, please contact, me at PASIntervention@aol.com.  Please put Targeted Parent Research in the subject line.

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James July 13, 2012 at 10:12 PM
I have a unique perspective on this. Let me tell you, being the targeted parent is the most crushing emotional burden I've ever experienced--and it doesn't only happen in divorce cases. If you instigate research, do it with with the goals of developing a strategy to educate the abusing SO, and educating people about precursor behaviors. They exist and are telling.
PAS Intervention July 13, 2012 at 11:14 PM
James: Actually, I already address some of this issue in my book that PAS can happen to even intact families, not just ones with a divorce or separation or no marriage at all. The point is that we need to show a clear picture of how this form of psychological abuse affects more than just the children. We also need to show that even a well-adjusted mature adult cannot handle the impact of PAS. That if a targeted parent is destroyed by this kind of domestic violence, it is no wonder that the children are so scared and easily influenced to subconsciously and consciously protect themselves from the same harm.
Glenn Gordon July 22, 2012 at 03:18 PM
You nailed it , on the Nose~~!!! It's the worst feeling in the world....... It's like living in Hell , every minute of every day.... Blacking out the reality , to overcome the psychological pain.... Imagine picturing your children dead~~ when they are still alive~!!! this is torture beyond words, to explain how I feel here now..... I wish this experience on nobody ~ not even my worst enemy.... It goes against all laws, morals, ethics we are raised with , to have life with your children Stoled , by selfish, sick ,greed in a collaboration of lies , to use our justice system to rid you of your children~ is insane ~!!! why do judges not stop this PAS...abruptly?? and apply swift serious penalties to the sick minded individuals playing inhuman games with there past spouse and there own children.. The children would snap out of it and learn Serious lessons , if the alienating parent did hard time for the crime .. The children would understand the crime committed and learn not to copy that parent ,that way.Maybe we are living in a generation of spoiled children who got there way, as adults using deceitful games to manipulate courts , must stop..
Joan Kloth-Zanard July 22, 2012 at 08:07 PM
Glenn: The one thing you must remember is that these alienators are not evil criminals but mentally ill. They have extreme low self-esteem and believe they have to be perfect because they are not perfect, then they are not lovable and if they are not lovable they will be abandoned and alone. This is their biggest fear and how their narcissistic personality tendency becomes activated and sometimes even pushed to NPD or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Add to this that most of them are stuck in the Anger stage of the grieving process, with inability to control their impulses and understand their boundaries. Well, you have one very messed up mentally ill person, who desperately needs to be court ordered into specialized counseling with serious consequences for non-compliance.
Childrens Rights Florida July 25, 2012 at 03:23 PM
Thank you so much for your hard work! Please know that we run the "Stop Mental Child Abuse" Facebook Page at http://www.facebook.com/pages/Stop-Mental-Child-Abuse/277636428914038#!/pages/Stop-Mental-Child-Abuse/277636428914038
Joan Kloth-Zanard July 25, 2012 at 08:28 PM
You are welcome. And yes, this is Psychological Child Abuse. I hope to be able to put a charity event together called Dance To End Child Abuse, www.Dance2EndChildAbuse.org (site is still under construction).

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