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The Crime of Parental Alienation - Part 4

The continued case of a father who is alienated from his 13 year old triplets and what more can be done to help heal broken families like this.

THE CRIME OF PARENTAL ALIENATION

Part 4 in a Series of Articles

 

By Joan Kloth-Zanard, RSS, ABI and LC

 

This is the continued case of a family, where the father has not seen his children in almost 2 years.  There is no obvious reason to this relationship breakdown other than maybe a mother who refuses to support the father having a loving relationship with his triplets.  It is called Parental Alienation and it is a serious problem for all involved.

As I am a fair and honest reporter, I have again tried to reach out to the maternal side of the family, to find out why this relationship with the children and their father has been allowed to deteriorate to this level.   So far, I have received no response back, creating only more wonder and suspicion as to what is going on.

Could it be that the mother has family of origin issues with her own parents?  Was there an abandonment issue with her own father or mother?  Could it be that she is stuck in the anger stage of the grieving process and cannot move forward?  Is it possible that she has extreme low self-esteem that makes her believe that she has to be perfect, because if she is not perfect, then she is not loveable; and if she is not lovable then she will be abandoned and alone without her children?  Could it be deep depression from her own childhood that she is projecting through her own children toward the relationship with their father?  Or could it be something worse, like a mental health issues that needs to be addressed so that she can move forward in her life and be able to properly parent by allowing the children to have their own emotions and feelings? Or could it be that she cannot control her own impulses when it comes to the borders and boundaries between the children and her, something this reporter calls, Borderless Boundaries?

It is for all of these reasons listed above that this reporter, author and expert in Parental Alienation, strongly believes that the first step, in any contested custody, visitation or contempt of a court order which involves the children, should be court ordered counseling.  This counseling should be for a minimum of 3 months with a specialist in Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT) and Parental Alienation or at the very least, specializes in Anger and Grief Management along with impulse control.  But I hear you asking, how is this going to help if the parent is not going to the counseling or cooperating when they are in the therapists office?   And what about finding these specialized counselors that do understand how to treat and solve for this kind of emotional projection and breakdown of relationships?

Let’s start with the first question, how do you deal with the parent who refuses to cooperate with the counseling orders.  This is where a set of penalties or sanctions must be firmly in place. And then judges must apply them so that the parent gets the point, that the courts will no longer tolerate this kind of behavior.  It should be like the 3 strikes and you are out theory, based on the fact that time is of the essence when it comes to the children.  A violation of this order is NOT just about not going to counseling but not doing the hard work involved in the therapy session to deal with each parents’ own personal issues.  In fact, it will be self-evident if a parent is cooperating with counselig by the children’s behavior and attitudes.  And so my recommendations would be as follows.

  • First, a warning is issued at the start of the orders that if either parent does NOT cooperate with the counseling, including not bad mouthing the other parent, impeding visitation or not allowing free communication between the children and the other parent, they will risk loss of custody and being forced to have only supervised visitation until such time that they have cooperated with the therapist.  They will have three strikes and then they are out and will loose custody, whether temporarily or permanently.  In addition, in order for them to move forward to the next step in the process, going to parenting classes, they have be cleared by a panel of not less than 3 therapists who agree that the parent has made progress and is ready to maintain a healthy relationship with their children.
  • 3rd Week Mark:  If a parent has not started weekly counseling, or is refusing to do the necessary work while in therapy, then they should be court ordered to do community service with children who have no parents.
  • 6th Week mark: If the parent still has not cooperated with the counseling order, a fine of 10% of that parents income, which will include all child support income, will be charged and given to the targeted parent or to a charity for children or placed in an escrow account that collects interest.  In addition, if the parent is the child support receiving parent, all child support will be put into an escrow account collecting interest until such time that the parent can prove to the courts that they will NOT impede in the relationship and have done the work necessary in counseling.  If the parent is the child support-paying parent, an additional child support payment will be put into an escrow account for each 4 weeks of non-compliance, to be either returned to this parent once they comply or to be divided equally and given to the children when they turn 18 if no compliance ever occurs.
  • 9th Week Mark:  If the parent has still not complied with the courts orders or is still impeding, as evidenced in the children’s behavior, then the children will be immediately placed in the targeted parents custody and supervised visitation will be ordered for the offending parent.  Again, via a panel of no less than 3 Counselors, this parent must clear to resume   or reestablish a healthy unsupervised relationship and visitation with the children.
  • 12th Week Mark:  If after 12 weeks, the parent has still not gone to therapy and done the work required, after a final review by a panel of no less than 3 Counselors, the parent will Loose Custody, whether temporary or permanent.  This is the only way to ensure that the children’s mental health and best interests are maintained.

 

If however, a parent has cooperated and done the work necessary in counseling, and via a consensus of no less than 3 other therapists, who deem the parent to be a fit parent, then this parent moves on to the Parent Class Stage of the divorce process.  It is my belief, that with a standard of recommendations followed by the courts, we will see less volatile divorces, shorter divorce cases, less money wasted that is better earmarked for the children and best of all, chances are pretty good that if the parents are doing their part, then the children will never need counseling in relation to the divorce.

But what about these specialized counselors, where do we find them?  This can be done in one of two ways.  First, any counselor who wants to be involved in family court proceedings must go through a special training class for Alienation in much the same way as Judges, Guardian Ad Litems and Attorneys for the Minor child must do.  Or if they are already well versed in Alienation, believe they can identify it and treat it, they can take a Mastery’s test to prove their expertise.  This would also give the courts the opportunity to ask some questions about how different counselors are presently treating for it and what their typical recommendations are so the courts can learn what is new and developing in this area.

The last piece of this puzzle involves the constant court delays and stall tactics used to keep the children from a loving parent who has no substantiated claims of neglect or abuse.  This issue is two-fold.  The first part being if there is an issue involving visitation interference and a court delay of more than a few weeks.  Do the need for swift and timely resolution to the visitation issue; the children’s physical custody should be changed immediately to the targeted parent temporarily or until the trial date at bare minimum.  This prevents the aggressive parenting from gaining any further benefit from the court delays and stall tactics.

But I hear you saying, wouldn’t this mean alienating aggressive parents are going to start filing even more false allegations of abuse and neglect? Yes, I do believe that could happen, which is why the courts need to put their foot down when a parent is found to have filed false allegations.  If the courts stood up to those parent filing false reports of abuse and penalized them or at the very least referred the charges back to the respective police department or agency to take appropriate legal action, I think, that parents would start to think twice before filing a bogus claim of abuse.

No this is not a perfect science and a one solution fits all but it is a start to bettering the way family courts are handling high conflict custody and divorce situations.  If you would like to read more in depth about my ideas, contact me or come to our Monthly Meetings on the 2th Thursday of the Month at the Southbury Public Library in Southbury, CT.

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Connor April 25, 2013 at 11:20 PM
week. I asked my attorney if we had a copy of the transcript from the day of the divorce that would show that we clearly had this discussion to "alternate all school holidays and vacations and that this year i was to have Pres. Week." Unfortunately this inept attorney did not have a copy of the transcript with him at the hearing. He then advised me to be apologetic to the court and say that I had made a mistake by keeping my son too long since I did not have a hard copy of the agreement. I did what my attorney asked and when I was finished J. Gordon. went on to say to me that she had sat for 2 days of my divorce trial and had heard numerous complaints about me not returning my son on time. I then spoke up and said to Gordon that these were all baseless allegations from a completely separate hearing and should have no consideration in present hearing. J. Gordon told me to shut my mouth and she said she was vacating all of my parenting time with my son going forward. she would only allow me to see my son through a visitation service in a supervised setting and I would have to pay for it. She went on to say I could see him on two non consecutive weekends per month for up to six hours on a Saturday or a Sunday and that I could no longer call him on the phone. I asked J. Gordon how this could possibly be in my son's best interest to be so limited in his father/son relationship and that I felt this was not in my son's best interest for the matter to be handled this way.
Connor April 25, 2013 at 11:33 PM
J.Gordon, again told me to shut my mouth, that she had made her final decision and that she felt it was inappropriate and harmful to my son that I did not return him when I was called and asked to, and that I never should have put him on the phone to speak with his mother when she was asking him to be returned to her. My attorney then asked how long would the supervised visits be required to go for. J. Gordon said there was no specific ending date and that she would review copies of the visitation reports to consider how and when visitation would be modified in the future. Needless to say I was shocked and appalled by J. Gordon's ruling that made zero sense. She felt it necessary to make my son's father/son relations basically non existent. There had been no physical harm to my son or even a history of any such harm. Her ruling was so appalling that it would only be suited for someone who was a convicted criminal, drug dealer or person that had caused physical harm to a child. I was none of the above. I went to supervised visits to see my son for 18 months and could only afford to see him for 2 hours on 2 separate weekends per month. I am sorry, but this Judge Gordon, discriminated against me and took away my God given rights a parent and and violated my Constitutional rights as a parent for no justifiable reason. she abused her authority and her power as a judge plain and simple. She should be behind bars for violating someone's rights in this manner. But judges are immune
Connor April 25, 2013 at 11:42 PM
to accountability in our Family court systems and this has got to stop. Good parents, primarily fathers are constantly victimized by rogue judges like J. Gordon. and they never get punished for it. We have a broken family court system in this country littered with corrupt judges like Gordon. She apparently claims she supports a state sponsored video that was produced called "Putting Children First". This is almost laughable and biggest bunch of hypocritical nonsense coming from a corrupt judge like Gordon who goes out of her way to remove good parents from children's lives. I am thoroughly disgusted by J. Gordon, if you couldn't tell by now. So glad she is now retired.
mary April 26, 2013 at 01:08 PM
Honest, I agree with you guys. The system is flawed. The biggest problem I see is that instead of going case by case and really looking into the nitty gritty of the "whys". why is the child not seeing the parent, why did they miss visitation etc. The problem is so huge, the courts dont have time so they just make quick rulings that are not in the best interest of the child, so they can just move on to the next case. In Connors case, I can understand the confusion, but no way should there have been a punishment that severe. Ok, ink wasnt dry , misunderstanding, big deal. There was no reason for mom to demand the child back so soon, big deal, let him stay with dad until Friday. But we know why she demanded him back. Abusers are unable to communicate and just want to use the child as a weapon. Time needs to be taken for each case and really dive in to see what is going on, therapots, GAL, AMC, really need to look in with a microscope and see what is going on, and EDUCATION!!!!! and reduce fees.
Joan Kloth-Zanard April 26, 2013 at 01:47 PM
I agree that in the Connors case, where I could understand the confusion based on the lack of paperwork, there was NOT a reason to remove visitation and more. Your attorney should have appealed this decision immediately and asked for a change of venue or something based on the judge being biased. I do believe that Judge gordon is now gone from the bench. And you probably should reopen this visitation case and get it changed back to full time visitation. The interesting thing is that she does not seem to have taken away your parents rights or custody rights, only reduced your ability to see your son. I am glad that you brought to light this issue as I have also heard the same recently about Judge Munro and that concerns me greatly as they are the judge for the Middletown Court which is where all high conflict cases and custody issues are supposed to be sent to.
Connor April 26, 2013 at 03:59 PM
Thank you for the insightful comments about my parenting rights as a father. I do plan to file a motion for modification to ask for a return to more normal parenting time with my son. He deserves this and I deserve this. It is difficult to fight in court when the court is located over three hours away, but I will be filing a motion since it has been three years since Gordon made this ruling. One comment was made about my ex-wife being an "abuser" and "using the child as weapon". I have to say this in regard to this comment. The way my ex-wife has handled herself in regard to parenting relations, her actions show a clear, bitter, vindictiveness that is designed to prevent my relations with my son, any way she can. Yes, I agree that her filing the motion for contempt never should have happened, as my son was simply on his school vacation with me, having a good time. When someone is bitter and cannot move forward in life an just simply forgive and move ahead in a positive manner, it is nothing but toxic for parenting relations. So, yes my ex-wife clearly has some issues of bitterness that she cannot seem to let go of and gets some personal satisfaction from limiting and preventing my relations with my son. What is baffling about her behavior is that she does not seem to recognize that she is hurting our son when she goes out of her way to prevent father/son relations. What's even more baffling about her behavior is that she was the one who ran away from the marriage and had
Connor April 26, 2013 at 04:15 PM
an affair and she is living with this same person today. You would have thought she would have found some happiness in her life after having cheated on her marriage. At the time she ran off with this person, she also ran off with my son who was 4 years old at the time. She just left the marital residence with no notice and with my son and never returned. I called the local police to have her arrested numerous times and guess what? The police refused to get involved and said they could not arrest her for running away with my son. They said they could only arrest her if there was a court order that defined custody and that it was a civil matter for the court to decide. I was shocked. It appears if you are a woman in CT you can abduct your child, remove him from the marital residence and never return with the child. If that isn't considered kidnapping, I don't know what is. I can tell you this if a man did this, they would send out the national guard and that man would be locked up for a long time. This only showed me that there was a double standard in "the law" for women versus men. I don't want to sound like I am gender bashing here, because I'm sure there are many women out there that would not handle themselves in the manner that I've experienced. I really believe this situation just goes to show how there are different standards in the law for women versus men when it comes to children and parenting relations. Society has to start treating men as equal parents to women.
mary April 26, 2013 at 09:27 PM
Good Connor, get that motion filed and get back into court. Its good to hear that Gordon is off the bench, maybe some fresh eyes on the case will help? Unfortunately, this type of person cannot find happiness with a new love because they cannot find happiness with in them self. As for the police, no they do not do anything for civil cases. I do understand the worry about the gender comment, and I do agree with you that it is harder for the dads than it is for the moms. Hopefully we can turn that around so it dosnt matter who it is, the abusive parent gets the punishment.
Joan Kloth-Zanard April 26, 2013 at 10:49 PM
Actually, Connor, you are misinformed about the kidnapping charges. I have a mother who's son was and still is kidnapped from IL to MA and from there we do not know where he actually is. The police are very correct, they need a court order that states the courts ordered the child returned and if not, then the courts have to issue a felony warrant arrest for the return and then they will get involved. This mother from IL has a court order for sole custody because of what the father has done. It is listed as kidnapping but because they have not issued a felony warrant for the father's arrest, the police in MA will do nothing and no amber alert can go out. It is a very screwed up situation and set of laws.
Connor April 26, 2013 at 11:07 PM
Thanks, for the thoughts and comments. I was still married on paper when my ex-wife ran off with my son. I believe this is why the police would not arrest her. They basically told me "how can you kidnap your own child if you are still married and there is no court ordered custody arrangement." That's actually what makes no sense to me. I believe you are kidnapping your own child if you leave the marital residence, never to return. Neither parent should be allowed to simply remove the child from the marital residence without mutual consent. I don't know for sure if the law is written this way. According to police they can do nothing in this situation. To me, it's quite apparent that if one parent leaves with the child and they have no intention of ever returning with the child, I don't know how any sane and rational person would not refer to this as kidnapping. In the example you are giving me about a child taken from IL to MA, this child was moved hundreds of miles across state lines and I just can't believe our laws don't legally define this as kidnapping. Not long ago there was a recently televised case of a man from NJ who was the father of a young boy and he was married to a Brazilian woman. She decided to leave the country and return to Brazil with the boy, while she was still married and that was considered kidnapping. The man had to fight a legal battle in Brazil to get his son back and I believe he won, but it took years and 10's of thousands to do this.
Connor April 26, 2013 at 11:11 PM
All I know is when my son was taken, I contacted an attorney. I told my attorney that I would just go and pick him up at his preschool and just bring him home myself. He informed me that if I did this, I would most likely be arrested and he advised me not to do this. That was the advice from the attorney and I followed it, otherwise according to him I would get locked up.
Joan Kloth-Zanard April 26, 2013 at 11:11 PM
I think the story you are referring to is the Elian story but maybe not. Either way, I think the polices hands are tied without a court order that clearly states the child has been abducted. It is really insane.
mary April 29, 2013 at 03:39 PM
It does seem very backwards that she can take the kids but if you take them, you are in trouble. Is the divorce final yet? In regards to the police, as crapy as it is that they dont do anything for civil cases, look at it this way, if they did, people would be getting arrested left and right, kids would be taken from parents and given to the other all day long. There has to be some way to keep order. It does make it more difficult when the "good" parent is trying to do the right thing, but we must keep in mind why the laws are the way they are. Thats why we are banding together to change them in some cases so we can get the judges to see what is really going on. If the laws are too lax then there will be too much chaos. This is why we need to change the wording and go to court to show the judges that we, and our children are being treated unfairly.
Connor April 29, 2013 at 10:31 PM
The law should be written that neither parent can permanently remove the child from the marital residence unless there is written consent or a court order, to do so. This is how it should be prior to divorce or prior to either parent filing for divorce and prior to receiving temporary parenting orders for visitation from the court after divorce papers have been filed. This is called common sense. I simply cannot believe that in the history of our family court system, this situation has not occurred numerous times and therefore the the need to define this situation, so that one parent cannot simply leave the family residence with the child never to return. In many European countries one parent cannot travel abroad with the children unless there is written notarized consent from the other parent. We should have some version of this law in our country that prohibits one parent from removing the children from the habitual residence without written consent from the other parent or a court order. It seems like a no- brainer to me. Then if one parent wants to permanently remove the children from the home and the other parent they must first get a court order to do so, and must show that the children are somehow unsafe, or the other parent is unfit for them to be around. This would be very difficult situation to prove to court, and would most likely not be granted by the court. Yes, the divorce was finalized over three years ago. This all happened before there were any
Connor April 29, 2013 at 10:53 PM
Pendente Lite (Temporary) parenting orders issued by the court, during the divorce process. Another obvious fix to the family court system would be to make it a law that there is an automatic default to shared parenting and shared legal custody of the child or children. This would eliminate many of the custody court battles. One parent would still need to be designated as the custodial parent, especially in the event that both parents live a good distance apart. Most times the fighting in court is all about one parent wanting sole legal custody, trying to cut the other parent out completely. The lawyers are behind this and create this scenario and convince their clients to ask for sole legal custody to create a drawn out legal battle that empties peoples bank accounts into their pockets. The lawyers in the family courts are the real scum bags. No one actually sees this or understands this until you have experienced a fully contested divorce. As a society we are basically all apathetic to what happens in the family courts. Unless you have been there first hand and experienced how dysfunctional it is and how dysfunctional the characters who run it and make money from it, the average person would never believe this is what happens in our family court system. The family court judges also have way too much leeway as to what they can order. They like to use a blanket statement when making an order. "This is in the best interest of the child or children." Any time they say this.
Connor April 29, 2013 at 11:16 PM
it is a license for them to basically order and do whatever they want. They do not have any hard rules that they must follow and the discretion is totally up to them. This is where we must change the family courts and remove this excessive power from the judges. They are not held accountable either. There is a Judicial Review Committee, if you wanted to file a complaint against a judge, but it is a joke, a kangaroo court. All the members of the committee are lawyers and judges or former ones. They will never make a ruling against one of their own. It is like the fox guarding the hen house. Complaints get filed all the time and it is extremely rare and highly unlikely that a complaint ever results in a judge being punished for their errors or outright unjust rulings. Some members of the committee should be from other professions and not all from the legal profession. It's really got to change. As citizens, we have all become too apathetic and we've got to step up and make some changes happen so that the there are defined rules in the family courts that judges must follow and so they simply cannot just say " My ruling is in the best interest of the child" This is what Gordon said to me and then told me to shut my mouth. If that isn't improper conduct from a judge and just a completely nonsensical comment, then I don't know what is. This conduct by Gordon shows pure discrimination and a complete lack of competent judgement skills. This is the type of judge that is in many of our
Connor April 29, 2013 at 11:27 PM
family courts today. These are the people who are in charge and they continue to violate our constitutional rights as parents to our children. If you ever tried to tell one of these judges they were violating your constitutional rights they would simply ignore it and might even threaten you with contempt of court for challenging their decision. None of them even know or understand what constitutional rights they are violating. They are supposed to be upholding the law according to the Constitution and in the family court constitutional rights to your family and children are ignored and violated on a daily basis all over the country. We are all asleep at the wheel and not doing anything about it unless we experience it first hand. It also takes money and time to fight these rogue judges and the broken system, and most of us simply do not have the means to fight it. The court system knows this and this is why I do not believe it will ever change, unfortunately.
Joan Kloth-Zanard April 30, 2013 at 10:21 AM
Connor, in this country, you can have it put into an order that the parents cannot remove the child. If you do not include it, then the ex can take advantage of you. I have seen this happen far too many times because parents cannot afford an attorney and thus do not know the laws, rights and things they have to help them or their attorney is too green or lazy.
Joan Kloth-Zanard April 30, 2013 at 10:24 AM
This is what we were all at the Legislative Building For this past month, making shared parenting and custody a given. But if you want to be heard on this, you need to write to all of the legislators but especially your own because there are several bills related to Bill no. 6685 that deal with this and other parental matters.
Joan Kloth-Zanard April 30, 2013 at 10:27 AM
I agree. As I see it, when something does not work, most people and companies will discard it or fix it. So why, with all of the federal and state courts/agencies knowing that Family Court is not working for so many innocent children and parents, why have they not fixed or done away with the broken system? It is like constantly flushing a clogged toilet, eventually it overflows. Or it is like driving a car with a broken front end, eventually, you loose control of it and it goes off the road.
Joan Kloth-Zanard April 30, 2013 at 10:28 AM
I agree, but there is too much money at stake for the courts and attorney's that care more about the almighty buck, than the humanity of the situation.
mary April 30, 2013 at 12:38 PM
There are so many many things that should be put in to the parenting plan that will limit or prevent these things from happening. The problem is, no one thinks about it until after the fact, then its too difficult and too late to modify. Lawyers just have a boiler plate that they use for the parenting plan. If at that time, no one thinks of anything else or thinks nothing will happen and dosnt put anything else in, thats when trouble starts. This is where education is important and putting the word out to button up the parenting plan as tight as possible before hand.
mary April 30, 2013 at 12:40 PM
When it comes to anything gov't related, it is so hard to change because the "we the people, for the people" has gotten lost and its " for my pockets". This is why we need to speak up as the people and make the change in the laws and in what the lawyers put into the parenting plan. Even if we get the boiler plate plan changed, and get people aware that are in that stage to put in tight rules, that will help greatly.
mary April 30, 2013 at 12:41 PM
At this point in our country's history, the constitution is so blurred its horrific. The judges have no idea and dont care. Yes, Connor, we need to wake up and make changes.
Connor April 30, 2013 at 06:12 PM
Thank you Joan and Mary for your insightful comments. My apologies for getting so long winded about this subject. It is nice to be able to have discussion and dialogue with others who sincerely care and want to somehow make a difference for parents and children who are caught up in our family court system. Joan I think that's great that you a a group of others were at the legislative building this past month petitioning for shared custody and shared parenting. Curious to know who your group is and if you organize meetings together. Great comments from both you and Mary. I really appreciate all your thoughts and ideas.
mary April 30, 2013 at 06:55 PM
Connor, you are so very welcome and no apology needed. I understand what you are going through since I am also going through this. It is nice to have people to talk to that are on the same page. Contact Joan about meetings, she has done so much for the community in organizing groups and going to Hartford for Legislative meetings. It is a long and hard fight, but as long as you are a commitment to your son, you will find the strength to keep going.
Joan Kloth-Zanard April 30, 2013 at 11:00 PM
Mary, actually, here in CT, our parenting plan has a section to put in all of this stuff including remedies for non-compliance. It is number 4 on the form. The problem is that no one bothers to complete that section. Connor, we have a federally taxed exempt non-profit under Sec. 501(c)(3) of the IRS called PAS Intervention. We are often teamed up with Save Our Kids/FatherWithoutChristmas and PAAO USA. PAS Intervention actually has state chapters including one here in CT that meets every 3rd Thursday of the Month at the St. James Lutheran Church in Southbury, CT. Our next meeting is May 16th. For more information contact CTPASI@pas-intervention.com Additionally, we have 24/7 online support groups via yahoo where we have much more control over privacy and confidentiality. You can find more information out at www.PAS-Intervention.com and then clicking on services and following the links to the Free Online Support Groups. These groups are international are made up of some of the most amazing people I have come across.
An Honest Observation May 31, 2013 at 11:37 PM
Jerry Mastrangelo was back in court this week hoping that the judge would be able to clarify the agreement that he signed after hours of duress in court a couple of months ago. The clarification did not happen. What's the problem with a good, loving and devoted dad trying to get back into the lives of his almost fourteen year old triplets after being ripped out of their lives almost 3 years ago? There is something so horribly wrong with family law in CT that allows one parent the ability to take charge of her children and alienate them from the other parent. As in Connor's case, the children's mother broke up her family and carried on with her boyfriend in the marital home just months after telling Jerry to leave. Thousands and thousands of dollars wasted on the GAL and the attorney for the children and Jerry still cannot see his children. The outrageous point in this case is that he had shared custody of his children after the divorce. The ex decided on her terms to take that court order away. She's gotten away with the alienation all of this time but the case has gotten national attention; highlighting the subject of Parental Alienation and its life long effects on the innocent children. Any parent who believes that taking a good and dedicated parent away from their children is not child abuse is a very sick and disturbed individual. Every child deserves to have both parents in their lives. The courts have failed all of the families that have not given this natural right to a child. It is a moral disgrace and the attention is now overwhelming and will, hopefully, bring justice to the children and the alienated parent.
Joan Kloth-Zanard June 01, 2013 at 08:28 PM
Honest Observation, you are so right. I think the key is that we need to start focusing on the Children's Rights and not the parent's rights since parent's right seem to mean nothing. The children have a right to healthy, happy, unimpeded relationship with both parents. These professionals take an oath to protect the children's best interests which includes their rights. So why are they still not doing this?
An Honest Observation July 19, 2013 at 11:42 PM
Greed overrules their oath to protect the children. Anne Epstein, the attorney for the children, felt justified in asking Jerry to open his wallet and tell the court what credit cards he carried and the balances and limits on each! She was consumed with getting his money as though he was leaving town. I think she forgot about the children's right to a happy relationship with their dad!

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