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Helping Kids Understand the Importance of Choices

I wish I knew how to help our boys calm down and problem solve when they were younger.  One of them would argue his point and not let it drop, following me around the house, debating endlessly.  The other one would get so angry when there was an issue that he would get physical.  I didn't know how to help them solve their problems, or deal with their feelings in an appropriate way.

What I've learned is that we all need to have choices when we need to solve a problem.  And, when we are "in the moment" of the problem, we are not able to think clearly about how to solve it.  So when you and your child are both feeling good, work together to come up with a list of possible solutions to everyday conflicts or problems.  Some ideas are:

·        Walk away

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·        Read a book

·        Share and take turns

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·        Ask for help

·        Apologize

·        Work it out together

The key thing here is that you do this with your child.  When a problem comes up, ask your child if they want to go to their list and look for a solution. 

If you would like to learn more about the Positive Discipline model which helps build connections and relationships, and how to raise respectful, resourceful and responsible children, check out our upcoming introductory and 6-week class schedule at www.positivedisciplinewesternct.org.   .

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